Because a guy does not get pregnant, it is even more
important for him to take responsibility when it comes to
sex. You need to be thinking more about her than your own
wants or desires. Guys who care deeply for their girlfriends
are seen as being more attractive. By your willingness to
read this page, you are taking an important step in being
responsible and mature in your actions.
The truth that most guys are not thinking responsibly is
obvious by the well known fact that most of them will leave
their girlfriend if she becomes pregnant - even if she has
an abortion. When you are thinking about becoming sexually
involved with your girlfriend, you need to think through the
issues before you get lost in the heat of the moment.
Sex is designed for two primary purposes: 1. To create
babies and 2. To bond a man and a woman together for life.
The idea of "recreational sex" should be understood as being
on the same level as recreational drug use. The experience
may be fun, but the consequences are far reaching and
unhealthy (see our section on STI's). Condoms and other
birth control methods do not make sex safe. They may or may
not reduce the chances that your mate will become pregnant
or either of you get AIDS. However, condoms only sometimes
slightly reduce the chances that either of you will get
other serious STI infections. Many STI's are transferred by
skin to skin contact which a condom cannot prevent. Nothing
can avoid the emotional and psychological impact of
"recreational sex." There is no such thing as "safe sex"
outside of the lifetime commitment of marriage.
ARE YOU INVOLVED IN A PREGNANCY AND THINK ABORTION IS THE
ONLY OPTION?
Our counsel is that abortion compounds rather than solves
the problems associated with a crisis pregnancy (see our
page on "After Abortion" for lots of information and links
to personal testimonies). It is a dangerous decision; a
medical procedure involving risks to a woman's body and
psyche as well as the death of a human life. Legally, a
woman has the right to choose abortion. But she also has the
right not to choose it. She has the right to consider her
options without undue pressure from people close to her. In
reality, both of you must live with your decision:
physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. This is a decision that
cannot be changed. Before you encourage this choice, we
invite you to meet in confidence with one of our peer
counsellors. Know your facts before you encourage any
choice. One of the facts is that even if a woman chooses
abortion, most boyfriends will abandon their girlfriend
afterwards.
To find out what abortion is, its risks, and what a woman
(and baby) may experience before, during and after, call
us at 902-678-6217 or Toll Free at 1-800-284-7740 for a free,
confidential consultation. Also, you can view an animation
on fetal development right now to learn about your growing
baby here:
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We can offer you information on adoption and parenting. We
will also offer ongoing support and encouragement for the
guy who needs encouragement and direction for taking
responsibility during pregnancy and beyond.
Paternity Testing
For those of you wanting information in regard to paternity
testing (DNA test to determine if you are the father) you
can call the Paternity Testing Lab at the Gladstone
Professional Centre in Halifax, Nova Scotia at 902-423-6719.
They tell us that the test for two or three people (father /
mother / baby) is $435.00 (Canadian Funds) plus a blood
collection fee (about $30-$35 per person) paid at the place
your blood work is done. (Pricing could change without
notice.)
What happens is that after calling the Paternity Testing
Lab, they will set up an appointment for your blood to be
taken at a local hospital (both the father and the baby must
give a blood sample, and the mother too if possible). They
said that it is simpler to take blood from the newborn when
it is younger rather than when it grows older. The blood is
sent to Halifax and a report is mailed to the address you
give them.
